Sunday 31 July 2011

Cheaters

I just read an article on cheating men in Harper's Bazaar by Jackie Collins. She talks about men in Hollywood who cheat and think they can get away with it, and how despicable it is. It is a woman's magazine and so of course it is one sided. Before I go on I am not saying that cheating is normal, or excusable. If you make a commitment and a promise to a person then you should be man enough to stick to it. If you are incapable of doing so then don't make it in the first place. At the same time as a woman if you get comfortable and no longer consider your mans sexual needs to be important then what do you expect to happen? When I put my last boyfriend on a no sex ban (I believed he was trying to get me pregnant against my well declared wishes) I would not have been surprised if he had gone out and gotten some pussy somewhere else, nor would I have held it against him. To be quite honest I had gone out and gotten some strange a few times myself simply because the sex that we were having was not satisfying me. Not everyone can be a spectacular lover. Just that I am smart enough to keep my mouth shut and not get caught. Now that we are no longer I have contemplated telling him, but decided it is best to let sleeping dogs lie.

If you marry a guy that is known as a notorious playboy then what do you expect to happen? A leopard can't change his spots into zebra stripes just because you wish it so. If you use sex as bargaining chip then he will grow to resent you for it. If you let yourself go and turn into a slob then you can't expect him to still find you attractive just because of the love you share. Men are visual creatures, and as Augustine pointed out the male sexual organ's have a strong urge to live it's own life, resulting in a conflict between body and soul. These things are not new, they have been occurring since the beginning if time. In ancient Rome, yeah 60B.C. the orator and statesman Cicero argued "Anyone who thinks young men ought to be forbidden affairs with prostitutes is certainly very ignorant of the freedom of our time, and indeed not in harmony with the customs of our ancestors. Name any epoch when this was nit normal. When was such behavior ever censured or forbidden? These things have always been allowed. Prostitution is a legally sanctioned privilege.". Allah was in support of sexual urges as long as they did not threaten society. African tribes commonly practiced polygamy. It was not until Christianity that monogamy became the expected norm. In the beginning even the Pope Sixtus IV was making money off of hookers by taxing them. The Japanese had Yoshiwara, a whole city devoted to prostitution. So why are we so offended now by men that stray?

Tuesday 26 July 2011

More working less whining

I do spend a decent amount of time reading the board. It started out because it was fun conversation, now I am holding on by strings in hopes of any conversation. Yet I still read, and more and more I shake my head. Often at the hobbyists, but almost as often at the other providers. Here are some tips as to how to stay afloat on the Internet.

1. Men are like dogs, they can smell fear and they can smell desperation. If you hit at desperation even in the slightest, then yes maybe one or two of your regulars will feel bad for you and book, but everybody else will secretly laugh and move on to the next girl. There is nothing attractive in desperation. All last minute discounts do is make guys wait for the next time you run a special. Worse off, making a public post about how you are not booking is plain stupid, watch yourself book even less now. It just makes you look like a whiner, which brings me to my next point.

2. Do not whine. Do not bitch and complain about how tough this job is, and how so much more goes into it then people think. If you don't like it then get out of it, learn a real skill or trade and do that. Guys don't want to hear your bitching and moaning, if they liked listening to that shit then they'd be hanging out with their wife. My mom yells at my dad for vacuuming while she is dusting, if he were ever to go and see a hooker he would be doing it to get some peace and quiet, and not have to hoax the chic into sex. That is your job, to be the escape.


3. If you really feel the need to say something that may break the fantasy, think about it, type it out slowly, and read it over at least twice before posting. Is it really that important that you feel the need to shutter some guys dream? Personally I rely on being witty. I make jokes and snide comments, as well as trying to be helpful. I stick up for the guys because this business is about them, not me.

Monday 25 July 2011

Hot hot heat



Yesterday I decided that I want to go for a walk, just because. Since I was talking to a friend at the time I invited him along. We walked a total of 3 blocks and stopped on a footbridge over a creek. We talked, watched for fish in the water, and all was gravy until my vision started going blurry. Then my head started to get dizzy, and my legs were dissaperaing from under me. Since I felt it would be better to give a warning that I may faint I spoke up. A simple "I don't feel good" did the job. My friend was by my side telling me to breath, drink water (I already had the bottle in my hand) and sit down. I didn't sit until my vision went completely black. That was when I really started to panic and finally went down on my knees. Hahahahaha, now thinking about it, that is the first time that I have gotten down on my knees in front of him without going down on him. :) Anyways, I finally regained my sight, caught up with my breathing, and was able to stand back up. I was tired for the rest of the day, at night I slept like a baby. All is well that ends well, but that scared the crap out of me. I am staying out of the heat, and out of the sun.

Wednesday 13 July 2011

IHNTW

I am having a closet meltdown. I am on the verge of going through it and picking out the pieces that I really love and not just pieces that I own out of convenience. Sooooooooooooo many of my clothes I still have from high school, luckily they fit. My extreme sense of style then translated into things that are either classics or come back often enough that they keep working out time after time. Yet most of it is just junk. Torn up shirts, becuase they were so lame something had to be done to them. Actually screw writing this. I'm going through my closet.

P.S. That was quick. Though there is a lot in storage. But I just cut my shirt count in half. Then again there is a dryer full.

Sunday 3 July 2011

NSA

I remember when I first started and I trully believed that this profession was all about freedom, and "no strings attached". Everyone knows the Charlie Sheen line about not paying them to have sex but paying them to leave. Boy is that a joke. While I will say that the majority of guys are pretty nonchalant, it is not a staggering majority. There are quite a few gents out there that want that little bit extra, that feeling of being extra special. From frequent messages, which are often genuine, to private questions and revelations, which tend to be prying. I am not here to psycho analyze or judge, so I will not go in the direction of why.

It sometimes is fun, if the gent is fun. They watch for boundaries and try not to cross them. It's sometimes tiresome, and every once in a while it is just rude. I had recently had a date who was very nice, but it was an outcall and his location was not the cleanest. If I was his real girlfriend I would have put some gloves on and scrubbed the place down with bleach. I had made a special trip for him on the first time. Just the person I am, I aim to please. Unfortunately it ended up being a mistake, because he started requesting special treatment every time. He had asked me to see him on my days off, to stay with him longer for nothing extra, or just straight up discounts. When I would tell him that I was unavailable he would ask if I had any girlfriends, so I attmempted getting him in touch with an agency and a provider friend, he shut down both. I eventually told him not to speak to me anymore, I do not need to feel dread when dealing with my work. I like to keep it positive and enjoy it. Out with the bad.